Veronica VanessaHad been feeling like writing a post since days ago, yet find either no time or will to write -_-" And in the end I piled up all the topic I want to write about -_-
Let's start with the unpleasant one, so we can end up on a lighter note :P
Last year, I found out that working with people you cannot really get along with may ruin the schtroumpf between you for good, despite it being good or at least neutral before you had to work together. I had a good relationship turned neutral, and a neutral one turned sour. Ugh. Things do turn out ugly at times.
Sometimes I regret asking him to join the group. It apparently ruined my friendship with him. Although I had not been very close with him from the start, there were times when we understand each other because of the similarities we have that no one else in the crowd we are in shares. Now...looking at how things turn out, I don't even talk to him anymore. Funny how life goes.
Ok. Enough schtroumpf things.
When I went to YJC CVD yesterday, someone found me: AMANDA. Omg. And Kah Yun was there too, as a visitor. Like, wow. Those two TKD friends of mine, my closest juniors in MF! :D I totally lost contact with them after I lost my phone and hence their schtroumpf in August last year. Tried asking other juniors I know with no results. So I was left with no idea where they are and how they are doing. Well, fate works its magic and we met yesterday. Woo! :D :D
Rewind to Thursday and you'll find me finally getting away with 171cm for standing broad jump. It had always been the station which gave me the most problem: my record was 165cm, usually I get 150+ or 160cm. My passing mark is 156cm this year. Last year I failed NAPFA for the first time ever just because of this schtroumpf. Well, last Thursday I jumped 167 and 171cm. Woah. Not as far as more than half my friends did, obviously, but comparing with my past results, it really made my day. Thanks to KS for the tips; it's more than just tips, it gave me courage to overcome my fear and anxiety! :P ((:
Ok. Left another topic or two.
WARNING: the following part may not be suitable for people like Button -_-"" I'm serious. You've been warned.
NS. Last week I spent around four days thinking and researching about it before finally coming into a conclusion. I started by thinking about how tough it will be, what are the chances that our relationship can make it, what are the common difficulties faced and hence what should be done to prevent a break-up during that period of time.
"Research" here means LOTS of googling, reading LOTS of forum pages and talking to relevant people including even....never mind. Well, my "research" results were as follows.
Most people said that 90% relationships usually cannot make it past NS. A common difficulty for the girl is how the guy may not be there when she needs him to be. A common difficulty for the guy is thinking how the girl may meet and fall for another guy in the working world/university, where she is out in the open and have a new world to explore. However, the key difficulty lies in communication problem, as the couple may not see each other as often as before, and the fact that when they do, the guy may be too tired to go out, or chat, or anything at all. Communication problem often exarcebates the girl's problem of needing the guy's care, and the guy's problem of possible jealousy.
So. From the gist of it, trust is the most crucial thing in order for a relationship to work out. That, and strength, loyalty and patience. The girl's ought to trust the guy when he's on overseas training, for example, and must be strong to go through weeks without him. She must be loyal to him no matter what kind of guys are around her and be patient when he's tired out after a week's training. On the other hand, the guy must trust that the girl will be loyal to him, be strong enough to go through trainings and yet spend some time with the girl when time permits. He must be loyal too, and be patient when the girl demands care and attention.
Of course, easier said than done. That's what haunts my mind as I formulated all these. I mean, if it's that easy, why would the percentage of break-up reach as high as 90%? Ok, here goes the "Button is warned" part.
My conclusion is that we are different. There is no use comparing us to other couples, because our case is unique. Where many cases involve couples from the same school who sees each other every single day, we don't. And where in many cases, couples had never gone on weeks of never seeing each other, we had. True, there's MSN, but hey, we've made it before, not seeing each other for 3 weeks. Yet I know it may be nothing compared to what's up next year. And I'm suddenly reminded of my studies of Southeast Asian History and how the nations gained independence and then form their own political structures. The experience of the nations may be similar in nature, yet all reached various degrees of successes. We may be up to experiences similar to other couples next year, yet the results may not be the same.
You're someone worth waiting for. Your friends said you're a good guy, and I couldn't agree more with them. I don't know. Maybe it's in the way you handle things, take up challenges, treat other people, your sense of responsibility, how gentle you are (apparently this may be one of the first things that really got me :P), I don't know for sure, but I love you. My heart is telling me that I should hold on and wait for you during those two years. I'm determined to make it through. I'm no fortune-teller, but I'm willing to give it a try. We'll take our chances and try our best! (:
I look up to you in many ways, not just literally because you're taller :P I guess I even run properly during PE, ashamed, thinking about how much you exercise as compared to me :P Haha xD
Looking forward to Wednesday!! (:
-vNs-
Let's start with the unpleasant one, so we can end up on a lighter note :P
Last year, I found out that working with people you cannot really get along with may ruin the schtroumpf between you for good, despite it being good or at least neutral before you had to work together. I had a good relationship turned neutral, and a neutral one turned sour. Ugh. Things do turn out ugly at times.
Sometimes I regret asking him to join the group. It apparently ruined my friendship with him. Although I had not been very close with him from the start, there were times when we understand each other because of the similarities we have that no one else in the crowd we are in shares. Now...looking at how things turn out, I don't even talk to him anymore. Funny how life goes.
Ok. Enough schtroumpf things.
When I went to YJC CVD yesterday, someone found me: AMANDA. Omg. And Kah Yun was there too, as a visitor. Like, wow. Those two TKD friends of mine, my closest juniors in MF! :D I totally lost contact with them after I lost my phone and hence their schtroumpf in August last year. Tried asking other juniors I know with no results. So I was left with no idea where they are and how they are doing. Well, fate works its magic and we met yesterday. Woo! :D :D
Rewind to Thursday and you'll find me finally getting away with 171cm for standing broad jump. It had always been the station which gave me the most problem: my record was 165cm, usually I get 150+ or 160cm. My passing mark is 156cm this year. Last year I failed NAPFA for the first time ever just because of this schtroumpf. Well, last Thursday I jumped 167 and 171cm. Woah. Not as far as more than half my friends did, obviously, but comparing with my past results, it really made my day. Thanks to KS for the tips; it's more than just tips, it gave me courage to overcome my fear and anxiety! :P ((:
Ok. Left another topic or two.
WARNING: the following part may not be suitable for people like Button -_-"" I'm serious. You've been warned.
NS. Last week I spent around four days thinking and researching about it before finally coming into a conclusion. I started by thinking about how tough it will be, what are the chances that our relationship can make it, what are the common difficulties faced and hence what should be done to prevent a break-up during that period of time.
"Research" here means LOTS of googling, reading LOTS of forum pages and talking to relevant people including even....never mind. Well, my "research" results were as follows.
Most people said that 90% relationships usually cannot make it past NS. A common difficulty for the girl is how the guy may not be there when she needs him to be. A common difficulty for the guy is thinking how the girl may meet and fall for another guy in the working world/university, where she is out in the open and have a new world to explore. However, the key difficulty lies in communication problem, as the couple may not see each other as often as before, and the fact that when they do, the guy may be too tired to go out, or chat, or anything at all. Communication problem often exarcebates the girl's problem of needing the guy's care, and the guy's problem of possible jealousy.
So. From the gist of it, trust is the most crucial thing in order for a relationship to work out. That, and strength, loyalty and patience. The girl's ought to trust the guy when he's on overseas training, for example, and must be strong to go through weeks without him. She must be loyal to him no matter what kind of guys are around her and be patient when he's tired out after a week's training. On the other hand, the guy must trust that the girl will be loyal to him, be strong enough to go through trainings and yet spend some time with the girl when time permits. He must be loyal too, and be patient when the girl demands care and attention.
Of course, easier said than done. That's what haunts my mind as I formulated all these. I mean, if it's that easy, why would the percentage of break-up reach as high as 90%? Ok, here goes the "Button is warned" part.
My conclusion is that we are different. There is no use comparing us to other couples, because our case is unique. Where many cases involve couples from the same school who sees each other every single day, we don't. And where in many cases, couples had never gone on weeks of never seeing each other, we had. True, there's MSN, but hey, we've made it before, not seeing each other for 3 weeks. Yet I know it may be nothing compared to what's up next year. And I'm suddenly reminded of my studies of Southeast Asian History and how the nations gained independence and then form their own political structures. The experience of the nations may be similar in nature, yet all reached various degrees of successes. We may be up to experiences similar to other couples next year, yet the results may not be the same.
You're someone worth waiting for. Your friends said you're a good guy, and I couldn't agree more with them. I don't know. Maybe it's in the way you handle things, take up challenges, treat other people, your sense of responsibility, how gentle you are (apparently this may be one of the first things that really got me :P), I don't know for sure, but I love you. My heart is telling me that I should hold on and wait for you during those two years. I'm determined to make it through. I'm no fortune-teller, but I'm willing to give it a try. We'll take our chances and try our best! (:
I look up to you in many ways, not just literally because you're taller :P I guess I even run properly during PE, ashamed, thinking about how much you exercise as compared to me :P Haha xD
Looking forward to Wednesday!! (:
-vNs-